The Underbelly of the Twin World!
It is hard to believe that I have been the mother of twins for over 8 months!! During this time, I have become educated on the social class system within the twin world & I am here to report that I am the lowest of the low!!
Going out with twins is like taking a 3 ring circus with you...even when the kids are quietly sleeping. Everyone stops you & has a comment. Most of the time the people mean well & are delighted to see 2 babies. I usually smile & try to do whatever I am out doing (grocery shop, etc.) while I talk to the people. Many comments are totally inappropriate & do nothing but conjure up bad memories of infertility, miscarriages, & IVF. The pc way to ask if I had fertility treatments is to ask "Do twins run in your family?" I actually have a twin cousins, so I always say "Yes!" The other day an old man blatantly asked me "Are these IVF babies?" I ignored him & he just yelled the question louder. I lied & walked away. Earlier that same week I was in Babies R US & had to endure a husband & wife discussing my use of fertilty drugs. The wife yelled out to the husband "well of course there are so many twins, everyone is on effin fertility drugs." These comments bother me, but I love my babies too much to let them really get to me. I'd endure this any day to have the precious babies that I have. I often wonder what people would think if I started asking every mother of singletons if they went through IVF!
Anyway, the twin world is full of inappropriate comments from strangers! But that is not the only world....there is a secret society that you join when you have twins. Parents of twins have a secret head-nod that we use when we see eachother. With that head nod comes a barrage of questions to see where you are on the twin world scale. Here are a few:
When did you deliver? I delivered at 36w4d, so I am "up" there, but not as high as those who made it to 38 or even 40 weeks.
Natural deliver, C-section, or a combination? I had a c-section...so I am low on the au natural totem pole.
Where you on bedrest? Yes...10 weeks. I am so uncool!
Did your babies spend time in the NICU? Yes...because of my assinine clotting problems, which still doesn't make sense to me...but whatever! Again, this response puts me down lower on the scale!
You get the idea!! The funny thing is that it also happens online. If you go to any twin message board everyone has these stats plus birth weight in their signatures! It cracks me up!!
I honestly don't care that I am such a "low-life" twin mom -- I am just so thankful that my babies are growing beautifully & hitting all of their milestones on or ahead of schedule! Here are some highlights:
Sophia has 2 teeth, pulls up to standing, butt walks, rocks on all 4s, & is super active and into everything. She even claps her hands!! I love when she has pretend conversations with herself!
Christian is about 22 pounds...but he is very agile! He also rocks on all 4s & can even crawl backwards! He also claps his hands & pulls himself up. He is a real babbler...especially with the dadas! Nothing gets past him & he is curious about everything!
Well, that's life in the twin nutshell! I am amazed that they are sleeping without me...but that is a post for another day! I hope all is well with everyone...GO CARA M!!!!! I Also want to congratule Lynn on the birth of her son!!
Going out with twins is like taking a 3 ring circus with you...even when the kids are quietly sleeping. Everyone stops you & has a comment. Most of the time the people mean well & are delighted to see 2 babies. I usually smile & try to do whatever I am out doing (grocery shop, etc.) while I talk to the people. Many comments are totally inappropriate & do nothing but conjure up bad memories of infertility, miscarriages, & IVF. The pc way to ask if I had fertility treatments is to ask "Do twins run in your family?" I actually have a twin cousins, so I always say "Yes!" The other day an old man blatantly asked me "Are these IVF babies?" I ignored him & he just yelled the question louder. I lied & walked away. Earlier that same week I was in Babies R US & had to endure a husband & wife discussing my use of fertilty drugs. The wife yelled out to the husband "well of course there are so many twins, everyone is on effin fertility drugs." These comments bother me, but I love my babies too much to let them really get to me. I'd endure this any day to have the precious babies that I have. I often wonder what people would think if I started asking every mother of singletons if they went through IVF!
Anyway, the twin world is full of inappropriate comments from strangers! But that is not the only world....there is a secret society that you join when you have twins. Parents of twins have a secret head-nod that we use when we see eachother. With that head nod comes a barrage of questions to see where you are on the twin world scale. Here are a few:
When did you deliver? I delivered at 36w4d, so I am "up" there, but not as high as those who made it to 38 or even 40 weeks.
Natural deliver, C-section, or a combination? I had a c-section...so I am low on the au natural totem pole.
Where you on bedrest? Yes...10 weeks. I am so uncool!
Did your babies spend time in the NICU? Yes...because of my assinine clotting problems, which still doesn't make sense to me...but whatever! Again, this response puts me down lower on the scale!
You get the idea!! The funny thing is that it also happens online. If you go to any twin message board everyone has these stats plus birth weight in their signatures! It cracks me up!!
I honestly don't care that I am such a "low-life" twin mom -- I am just so thankful that my babies are growing beautifully & hitting all of their milestones on or ahead of schedule! Here are some highlights:
Sophia has 2 teeth, pulls up to standing, butt walks, rocks on all 4s, & is super active and into everything. She even claps her hands!! I love when she has pretend conversations with herself!
Christian is about 22 pounds...but he is very agile! He also rocks on all 4s & can even crawl backwards! He also claps his hands & pulls himself up. He is a real babbler...especially with the dadas! Nothing gets past him & he is curious about everything!
Well, that's life in the twin nutshell! I am amazed that they are sleeping without me...but that is a post for another day! I hope all is well with everyone...GO CARA M!!!!! I Also want to congratule Lynn on the birth of her son!!
posted by Cara @ 10:43 PM
2 Comments:
At 6:05 PM,
Crista said…
OMG, people actually think those things, never mind SAY them? That's nuts...but I'm so glad to read this update from you, and so glad the twins are doing so well. More photos?! Pretty please?! :)
At 10:23 PM,
Patty said…
I cannot believe the nerve of people saying such inappropriate things. I am glad to hear you take it in stride. I would really like to see some pics too. Can I pretty please with applesauce on it?
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